Avoid Tantrums and Teach Your Kids to Express their Emotions
After I gave birth I started to struggle. I thought like my parents and a lot of other parents I will wing it. This seemed more complicated than it sounds. Things were happening that I did not understand and did not know how to deal with. I decided to educate myself as much as possible and I started reading. There are some books that I fell in love with and I really recommend. One of these books was "Brain Rules for Babies" by John Medina. In this book, he explained how important it is to help children express themselves through words. Instead of them throwing a tantrum, they learn to say: "I am frustrated". I used a couple of books with this because it was a very important concept that I wanted to implement.
The first thing I did is: we started watching "Inside Out" by Disney and Pixar. I personally love the movie. This led to the "Inside Out" book "Meet The Emotions". It is a very simple 5-page book with each emotion and sounds that are related to the emotion.
This book was very helpful because when Joe got mad instead of yelling or throwing a tantrum he would go "GRRRRRR" Like Anger. So I would address his emotions right away. He also expresses his sadness very well. He does a little sad face and says" I am Sad".
The Feelings Book by Todd Parr. It is a nice book that shows kids that they can feel a lot of different things from having pizza for breakfast to dancing to making mud pies. I used it to let Joe know that its ok to feel different things at the same time. Also, that feelings are not limited to sadness, happiness, disgust, fear, and anger.
I feel like introducing these concepts early helped me skip a rough stage. Thank God I never dealt with a tantrum or a meltdown in stores. Helping him Express himself helped me understand and know how to help.